Tips for Job Seekers


Ok. I haven’t been job hunting in a while (Thank God!) and although I have not and am not, I have seen a few things on facebook that has prompted me to write this. Not everyone will take what I have to say the same way. Some people may get offended, some people may feel that my views are wrong. But they are my views after all.

Penmanship: Nothing would turn me off more (if I were reviewing applications) than sloppy handwriting when looking at someone’s job application. People get complacent when they get older and don’t think too much about how they write or even much about how they speak once they’re out of high school. I get on to my son (who’s 12) regularly  about his penmanship. Its HORRIBLE! I know a lot of companies now have online applications and you won’t have to worry about physically writing anything. But if you are looking for a job and you have terrible handwriting, either ask someone to help you out by filling out your application for you or just make an extra effort to write neatly for the purpose of the application.

Attire: Don’t come to a job interview wearing JEANS! I don’t care if you have applied to work at McDonald’s! Have some sense of pride and professionalism about yourself and ‘dress up’; make the manager at least think you are actually sincere about the job you are applying for. And please, please, please, please IRON YOUR CLOTHES! I can’t tell you the number of people I have seen come for an interview looking like they just took their shirt out of a drawer or the back of the closet and just threw it on. First impressions are everything, and guess what, you only get ONE!

Contact information: If someone wants to hire you and they send you a letter telling you to be some place at a certain time and your letter comes back as ‘undeliverable’, that’s a problem. FOR YOU! The people sending out the letters are going to use the information you have put down on your application. If the address you put down is not where you receive mail, why put it there? I’ve even seen the yellow stickers on envelopes that say NMR – no mail receptacle. If you get mail at your mom’s house, or a post office box, or where ever else you might receive mail, its probably best you put that address so you might actually have a shot at the job you are applying for. I mean, if the person really wants to give you a fair shot, they may try to contact you at the phone number you have listed if your letter comes back as undeliverable. This is where we come to the next item on the list… Nowadays, so many people rely on cellular phones. Hardly anybody has a land line phone at their home anymore (although I do). So there’s this thing called a ring back tone. Just don’t do it! If you are looking for a job and your potential employer calls your cell and has to listen to “TOOT THAT THANG UP MAMA MAKE IT ROLL!!” for forty-five seconds to a minute before your voice mail greeting comes on, its really not a good look. One facebook friend of mine who handles applicants and recruiting put it very well: “I think it speaks to their professionalism. If I call the number you placed on your app for me to contact you at and Cee Lo Greens “F&%$ You” is playing for 2 mins….I take that as you aren’t serious about getting a job or making a positive impression. I’ve said it to applicants….they’ll call back and apologize, change it, its inappropriate during a job search.” And that sums it up right there. Its not professional, its inappropriate.

Egos: Don’t think that because you have a degree (and no experience) that you are entitled to the job for which you are applying. No one likes a smart alec or someone who is self-centered and conceited. Its not cute and more often than not, it will not get you where you want to be. Nothing is wrong with having confidence in your abilities, but don’t make the person willing to hire you feel as if THEY need YOU. They are already in their positions, YOU NEED THEM!

I think I’ve covered the major issues to which people need to adhere to and take note of when job hunting. Write like an adult and not an elementary school student; look presentable; take that foolishness off of your phone; and don’t let your big ego cause you to miss out on a great opportunity (however small, any job in this economy, is a great opportunity).


A Different Kind of Love

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I met this guy a little over a year ago. He has been such a blessing to me in so many ways. I don’t believe that anything happens by ‘chance’. Everything has a place and a time. Everyone has a predestined purpose. Well I won’t mention him by name because as he reads this, he will know that this is about him. He’s different. He’s unique and intelligent. Well versed, and very charismatic. He sees the world differently. He’s destined for greatness; this I believe wholeheartedly. His words are wise and his truth is just that… The truth. He holds nothing back. He’s blunt and direct but not rude. He’s poetic, thoughtful and caring. Giving and understanding. He makes me laugh, he puts a smile on my face bigger and brighter than anyone ever has before. Just thinking of him as I write this, I can’t help but smile to know how great he is and what him being in my life has done for me spiritually & emotionally.

The first conversation we had he said something to me that stuck and he has proven it to be true: “I don’t know it all, but I know a lil about a lot….and when it comes to knowledge of love (and wisdom), I’m fairly fruitful in that department.” He is very fruitful in the department of love – and wisdom. He helped me get over a past relationship where I allowed myself to fall really low. I was upset and couldn’t understand why this man I loved, who I thought loved me would treat me the way that he did. But my friend helped me to see a brighter side to my sob story. He said that nothing on this Earth is eternal. Nothing is going to last forever while we are here. And that I should focus less on how I thought things should have been, or how hurt I felt, and more on the temporary happiness that he brought into my life. Because don’t get me wrong, I was happy. We had a good time while together, it just ended badly and I was very hurt. The perspective of this special man that I have in my life helped me to view my situation in a different light.

I said he is well versed! Man is that the understatement of the century! He has a way with words that I have never seen, I mean EVER! I can recall him encouraging me to write and to post my writings online. I’ve considered that before but never really followed through. Although I did start an associated content page a few years ago and posted my poems and stories and such on it but that only lasted for a short time.  He said “Artistic integrity is a way of life”, that I shouldn’t worry about plagiarism because its unavoidable – not even a copyright can protect me from someone who wants to use my work. Its been a while since I’ve written anything poetic. And as I began to write the last poem I posted just today remembering 9/11, the words just flowed like I had never stopped. I was encouraged to reignite the flame of my passion for writing by this wonderful, gorgeous man, and I feel like a piece of me that was somewhat empty is now filled. I always make time for other people and other things. I need to take time out for ME and the things that I enjoy. For as long as I can remember I have loved to read and write poems and stories. My creativity peaked at a very early age. He inspires me to push myself to the limit. To never give up on my passion and my ability to inspire others.

Now to the love part of this post. I kinda got off on something…else. A different kind of love… What do I mean by that? Well the love I have for this man is not like a love that some would think a woman would have for a man, but special in its own way. Its love not because of what he does for me but what he brings to my life. Joy, happiness, knowledge, wisdom, meekness, perspective… All these things were not as evident in my life before him. They were present, yes, but not on the level that they are now that I know him. He lets me in in a way that he’s never done with any other female (at least not one he’s never been intimate with). I appreciate this about him. He understands me and I undersand him. We ‘get’ each other in more ways than one. So in a sense I do love him unlike I’ve ever loved any other man. No intimacy involved, no lies, no strings; just love. Of a unique and special kind. Love without conditions, without expectations and without limits.

Poetically Remembering 9/11

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We will never forget.

We shall never be the same.

Loved ones who have perished

Never to see their faces again.

Smoke, smog, soot  and debris

Covered the streets and filled the skies.

Frantic overload all about

From those who could not believe their eyes.

Tears of pain and disbelief,

Cries of grief and dismay,

Whether directly or indirectly affected,

The US will never forget the day.

The day our lives changed forever.

When we became a more prayerful nation.

Talking more, loving more, one another

Having more respect for God’s creations.

Knowing how terrorism has touched us all

Gives us little hope and even less peace.

So many lives lost that day

But we pray for the families of the deceased.

Every year, like clockwork, we remember.

We take time out to give tribute

To face the truth of the tragedy from those moments,

We recall every detail, however minute.

No account of memory will be the same.

After ten years, it’s now time to rebuild and restore.

Although we shall never forget the day,

That changed our nation – our lives, forevermore.