Cheating

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Interesting article I found dealing with cheating…

http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/cheating-and-infidelity/why-people-cheat/decision-to-cheat.html

Although I’ve never been married, I hope that when I do get married someday, my husband and I will have the type of marriage where the ‘decision’ to cheat is never an option.

Give me your honest answers in the poll below. I’m curious. Thanks!

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Men (More Randomness)

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Why can’t men just be honest? Why is it they feel the need to lie and manipulate? I learned from a male friend of mine that its not for me to understand, but I wish I did. Some men have these hidden agendas that they feel must remain hidden. They don’t want to be open and honest with you. They feel they must have their cake and eat it too. Well what if I want my cake and eat it too as well? Oh, of course then there’s gotta be something wrong with me. I can’t just be one of those girls who wants to have a good time with no strings attached… I gotta be missing something or longing for something more when sometimes I need less. I think its Safe Auto whose slogan is “when the minimum is all you want…” Sometimes I don’t need all the EXTRAS! Sometimes I just want the bare minimum and be done. And hey, what’s so wrong with that?

Facebook is growing each day with more users. The last two relationships I had were with people I basically “met” through facebook. (Note to self: Don’t date anyone else you haven’t met personally, in person, though you’ve chatted with them on facebook!) But on the bright side, I did find a pretty decent male friend who I have grown to love and care for dearly. He opens my eyes up to so much…MORE! We’ve been friends now for a little over a year and he is such a blessing. Its hard to describe. In all the years I’ve been grown and dealing with men of all kinds, I’ve never met someone as articulate, intellectual and spiritual as he is. He makes me look at my world from a different perspective. I understand him and he understands me. I don’t think I’ve ever had a friendship with a man quite like the one we have.

Well that took a total turn from what I initially started this post about. I don’t despise men or anything. I just don’t understand their thoughts and actions or motivations sometimes. Most times when relationships end, the woman wants to still remain in contact with the man; sometimes as a security blanket type of need, and sometimes just until they find someone else to take their mind off of that someone who was once ‘special’ who brought a moment of happiness into their lives. I’ve come to realize though that when a man says he still wants to remain in contact with the woman its not because he feels they could still be friends, or that he likes her personality so much that he just wants to remain a part of her life (because if that were the case, the relationship would not have ended) but more so that he still wants to enjoy the ‘goodies’. MOST times, I say; not all, because there may be some men out there who genuinely value their exes friendship, company and conversation. They for some reason or another just cannot maintain a relationship with that person.

Well I guess I will end this session of randomness and occupy my time elsewhere… Until next time!

On the INSIDE – looking OUT

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I don’t know why I let the talk about the shooting death of Walter Peterson upset me. I don’t know why so many people are taking this personally as if they knew this man… I mean really KNEW him. Not just saw him around and knew his name and where he lived. The community is so ‘outraged’ but who really was there for him before all this ever happened? A lot of what you will read here is hearsay, but that’s what many others are spreading anyways. Not too many facts, just what they heard.

They say the man was not in his right mind; that he had some mental issues. I also ‘heard’ that he was on medication, but had not taken it in over two weeks. Who was supposed to be seeing about him and making sure he was on his medication, taking it properly. Let me throw this in right quick. I don’t wish for anyone to lose their life. Wrong is wrong in every sense of the word and when you don’t submit to police authority, you run the risk of getting yourself either hurt or killed. Especially when you act in a threatening manner, and with a weapon no less. Ok so now that that’s out of the way, back to what I was saying. There’s a great possibility that this man wasn’t being seen about properly by those who were supposed to be caring for him. If so, where were they??!

Ok so now on to the nonsense that people keep posting on facebook. They say he was killed for throwing a brick through a store window. Yes, he did throw a brick/rock through the store window where he felt he was cheated out of some money. No, he was NOT killed because of this. They say he did not have a weapon. Since when is a knife, being wielded in a threatening manner, NOT considered a weapon? One “concerned citizen” stated to the newspaper reporter that “Peterson was not a threat while inside the house, and the entry and shooting were senseless…” First of all, he broke the law. No one is disputing that fact. Everyone says he broke the window at the store. THAT ITSELF IS A CRIME! The police had every right to go to his home to question him about the incident. But when he comes to the door with a butcher knife what exactly do people expect these police officers to do?? One “family member” stated, “All they had to do is let 1 of us in talk to him and everything would have been ight he was scared and they should have respected his condition”… Ok, as far as I know, they did try to get one of his family members to talk to him along with another individual, but it was no use. He would not listen, he would not submit. How else should they have ‘respected his condition’? The standoff lasted for almost two hours! They had to bring the incident to a close. He should have respected the police presence in the very beginning and none of this would ever have happened. Oh and one last one… This one tops them all: “To every black police in Moultrie put on your uniform and stop by Luke Strong and Son Morturay and take a look at would could have been u r one of your family members and ask yourself WHY. Because most of you where on the scene trying to keep others @ bay while them devils went in and killed your cousin,brother,uncle,or just a friend.Its time you understand that you r being compensated with money that has your fellow brothers blood on it.” Like, are you kidding me right now? When this same individual (who posted this comment) needed help from the police department to organize a peace rally for the senseless murder of a young black man by another young black man, he was so humble and gracious to the police… Of course he wanted something THEN. But now that the tables are turned, so to speak, and an officer of the law takes the life of a man who could have just as well taken the life of he himself, or one of his comrades, he’s against the police and all offended and ‘hurt’. PLEASE! Give me a break!! (I just wanna scream!)

Seeing that the investigation is still ongoing, I don’t want to get too deep into anything that I shouldn’t be saying or posting, but I will say this: the vast majority of police officers do what they do not for the money (because believe me, the pay ain’t all that great) but for the experience and love of their job. They get into such a profession because they want to help people, they want to make a difference. They’re not out to wrong people and arrest people unjustly, or write a hundred citations a day to meet some quota. When a husband is beating a wife in front of their children, who do you think that woman is going to call for help? When a single mother with two small children awakens to hear someone breaking into her home in the middle of the night, who is she going to call? When a man wakes up to leave for work in the morning to find that his car tires have been slashed and his window has been busted out, who is he going to call? When a child goes missing and the parents are frantic and upset, who are they going call? When someone is robbed on the street at gunpoint, once they gather their thoughts, who do you think they are going to call? When you need them, they are there, no hesitation, no second guessing. They do what they must do to help make the communities they serve better places. The gratitude they are shown is so minimal until it is pathetic. When people don’t get the responses they think they should get they complain; call officers everything but a child of God. What is a policeman? Let Paul Harvey tell you in the video below…

To conclude I just want to say that I don’t feel the shooting was unjustified. I feel that the police reacted in the proper manner for the situation. They killed this man only as a last resort. They tried other means of subduing him but failed. They had no other choice than to do what they did… These police officers get out here everyday never knowing what can happen to them on any ‘routine’ call. And for what? A gutless, shameless, ungrateful community who could care less if they live or die! Its a sad, sad shame and I am appalled! But in a sense I can’t be surprised because as much as we as black people cry racism at every situation imaginable, we are some of the most racist people of all. Not everything is about black and white. And this situation particularly, is not! Its simply about right and wrong; and whether people want to admit it or not, God rest his soul, Walter Wayne Peterson was just wrong. There’s no disputing that. In his right mind, crazy, or whatever people wanna say about his mindset, he was wrong, and that’s just the cold hard truth. I’m sorry he died in the manner that he did, but what would you – any of you – have done in any one of those officers’ shoes??!!!! Please tell me so I can better understand your frustrations. PLEASE!

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I smile!

I know God is working, so I smile! Sometimes I get down and sometimes I don’t understand what’s going on in my world, but I push through. I continue to do what I have to do in order to maintain a lifestyle that my kids can learn from and grow up healthy in. I know that there are people in the world who are doing much worse off than I am, so I try my best not to complain about my situation no matter how hard it gets. God is working out a blessing for me and I have to remain faithful and trust that He will work out for me what He has for me. So smile! Besides everyone looks so much better when they smile! 🙂

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I sometimes wonder about people and what their thoughts and motivations are. I think a lot of people are insincere and dishonest only because they know no other way to be. If your true intentions are made known up front, so much more could be accomplished. What am I talking about you ask? Well let me further explain.

Relationships: There are men who don’t actually want to be in a relationship. But instead of stating this fact to the woman up front, they LIE. They charm their way into the woman’s heart and mind; telling her he loves her and wants to be with her always. Even goes to the lengths of telling her no other woman has made him feel the way she does. She’s his soul mate, and plenty other nonsense. But we take it all in believing every word. But hey, that’s life and we just have to learn to live with it I guess.

The Double Standard: The problem I see with the whole double standard thing between men and women is this. Why does it exist? Why can men do certain things and women cannot? Why is it that a man can use a woman for sex and feel like it’s okay but a woman can’t. And if she does it she’s called all of these nasty adjectives that would never be used to refer to a man doing the exact same thing. The difference though, is many times a man is not going to just come right out and say, “I only wanna have sex with you.” He’s going to lie and manipulate the woman into thinking he really wants a relationship. And even if he maybe does want a little more than a ‘fling’, he is still very misleading, but why is that? I don’t understand it.

Assumptions: People nowadays like to assume ‘stuff’. If they don’t know something to be fact, they will make up something in a heartbeat. They take a smidgen of information and turn it into something the total opposite of what it is meant to be. People assume that you fix your hair different or buy a new outfit because you are trying to impress someone. Some may assume that you think you’re better than the next person if you dress nice for work or even that you’re on the prowl for a new job because you ‘dress up’ more than usual. What ever happened to change? What ever happened to being professional in a professional work environment? Wearing pantyhose and heels is what, overrated now? (laughing to myself) Its strange how so many assumptions can be made from such small happenings.

Well I’m going to end this randomness with more randomness… I don’t think of myself as better than anyone. I think I am who I am meant to be at this moment in my life. I have faults and flaws that I know need work, and as I try to be better and do better each day, I grow. I blossom into this woman I always knew I could be. I’m me. What more could I ask for?

Hello World!

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Here I am again… Doing the blog thing. I’m Josie! I was born in 1982 on April the 10th. It was a Sunday. I have a twin brother who was born minutes before me that I love dearly. I have three beautiful children who I cherish and adore. They are my AIR – Literally. The first initial in each of their names spell AIR. I didn’t do that on purpose, but I think it fits. They are the reason I breathe every day. I enjoy writing and reading poetry. I haven’t done a lot of either lately because of my busy schedule. Although I thought to myself a few days ago that I used to really love to write. I wanted to get back into the groove of writing and what better way than to start a new blog?!

I am gainfully employed as an Administrative Coordinator (fancy name for Secretary) and have been in that position since 2007. Before I was promoted to my current position, I was in a different position at my job which I began working at in 2005. I like my job, I enjoy what I do. I get to experience things many people would never even think of in their jobs. I plan to go back to school in January. I just have to get a few things straight concerning my financial aid. I’ve had several setbacks which have kept me from completing a two year degree which I have been working on for almost four years now. Its pitiful I know, but being a full-time mom and a full-time secular employee, when trying to go to school ONLINE, its tough! I can do it though, and I will. I hope whoever takes the time to read my blog enjoys it and can gain some type of insight from it.

Happy reading! And feel free to comment and give your input, opinions and or suggestions.